Let’s chat about something many of us go through but are just now starting to talk more openly about—perimenopause. It’s that stretch of time before menopause when our bodies start to change, signaling that our reproductive years are winding on down.

And let me tell you, it’s not just about the physical changes like hot flashes and irregular periods, but the emotional roller coaster that often gets overlooked.

What exactly is Perimenopause?

Many of us have heard about menopause, or “the change”, from our moms, grandmas or aunts. But, perimenopause happens before menopause. We’re considered to have reached menopause at the point when our periods have stopped for a full year. Perimenopause usually starts showing signs in our 40s, but for some, it can even start in the 30s.

Our hormone levels start to sporadically go up and down, which can stir up all sorts of physical and emotional responses. Symptoms of perimenopause can vary from woman to woman but are most recognizable as mood swings, irritability, hot flashes, loss of libido, anxiety, and depression…all of which can be attributed to the hormonal fluctuations that occur during this stage.

Irregular periods and heavy bleeding can become a common occurrence during perimenopause. These changes in menstrual patterns can be very disruptive and lead to feelings of uncertainty and frustration. What has made perimenopause particularly challenging for me, is the unpredictable nature of symptoms and the noticeable changes I feel within my body. It can be hard to adjust from your norm.

The Rollercoaster of Hormones

As our luck would have it, inherent stress of our transition into a new phase of life just so happens to typically coincide with the timing of our children leaving home or increased need to care for aging parents. It’s no wonder our emotions are all over the place.

Many women report feeling overwhelmed and confused during perimenopause. They may experience a rollercoaster of emotions, ranging from sadness and anger to joy and excitement. It is important to remember that these emotional changes are normal and temporary. By understanding the common experiences of women during this stage, we can better navigate our emotions and seek appropriate support when needed.

The effects of fluctuating hormones on emotions can vary from woman to woman. Some women may experience mild emotional changes, while others may experience more severe symptoms. It is important to note that hormonal changes alone do not cause mental health disorders but can worsen existing conditions or make women more susceptible to developing them. The article “Can Perimenopause Spark Anxiety?” from Healthline.com provides an informative look into perimenopausal anxiety.

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Managing Perimenopausal Mood Swings

Mood swings are a common symptom experienced by many women during perimenopause. Handling these mood swings isn’t just about dealing with the symptoms but understanding what’s behind them.

Lifestyle changes can really help stabilize our mood. Things like staying active, finding relaxing activities, getting more sleep, and eating well all play a part. Talk therapies can be very helpful. For some, hormone therapy or medications might be needed, especially if the mood changes are strong and affect your daily life.

Discuss treatment options with your healthcare provider, who can explain the risks and benefits of various treatment options for consideration.

The Impact of Perimenopause on Mental Health

Perimenopause can have a significant impact on mental health. Women may experience an increased risk of developing mental health disorders such as anxiety and depression during this stage. The hormonal fluctuations and emotional changes that occur can contribute to the onset or worsening of these conditions.

Anxiety tends to bring on excessive worry, restlessness, and a sense of impending doom. Depression, on the other hand, can make you have feelings of sadness, loss of interest in activities, and changes in appetite and sleep patterns. Both anxiety and depression can significantly impact a woman’s quality of life and overall well-being.

It is important for women experiencing symptoms of anxiety or depression during perimenopause to seek help from healthcare professionals. Mental health disorders are treatable, and early intervention can lead to better outcomes. Therapies such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or medication may be recommended to manage these conditions.

By incorporating mindfulness meditation with Calmfirmations, you can help maintain a positive mindset and navigate the emotional challenges that come with perimenopause. Check out the article here for more information.

Coping with Anxiety and Depression During Perimenopause

Anxiety and depression during perimenopause can be challenging to cope with, but there are strategies that can help manage these symptoms.

Coping strategies for anxiety may involve simple things like breathing exercises, yoga, journaling, or regular exercise, which can be a big help. For depression, it’s important to be intentional about engaging in activities that help you stay grounded and keep you connected with others.

Sometimes, just knowing there are ways to manage these feelings can bring a lot of relief. When your mind and body are tense and anxiety gets the best of you, having go-to quick and easy calming tools are so helpful to help settle your nerves. Deep breathing is my #1 go-to for self calming.

Perimenopause and Relationships

Yes, perimenopause can even affect our relationships. The ups and downs can strain connections with partners, friends, and family. Not to mention the physical changes that start to occur with our lady parts (yikes!) which creates new levels of TLC (tender loving care) needed for them that wasn’t needed before…but is now VERY necessary. It’s crucial to talk openly about what you’re experiencing.

Being honest about your feelings can help others understand what you’re going through and offer much needed support. It is important to reach out to loved ones and let them know how they can best support you during this time.

Seeking Support During Perimenopause

Seeking support during perimenopause is crucial for managing emotional symptoms and maintaining overall well-being. It is important to remember that you are not alone in this journey and that there are resources available to help you navigate this transitional phase.

Support can come in various forms, including professional help from therapists or counselors who specialize in perimenopause. These professionals can provide guidance, support, and coping strategies tailored to your specific needs. They can also help you navigate the emotional changes and challenges that arise during this time.

Support groups or online communities can also provide a safe space to connect with others who are going through similar experiences. Sharing your thoughts, concerns, and triumphs with others who understand can be validating and empowering. It is important to find a support group or community that aligns with your values and needs.

Remember, it’s okay to ask for help—it shows strength, not weakness. Also, you may want to start researching pelvic floor therapy and urogynecology…two terms I once knew nothing about, but am now very grateful for!

Embracing the Emotional Journey of Perimenopause

While perimenopause can be challenging, it is also an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Embracing the emotional journey of perimenopause involves accepting the changes that occur and finding ways to get through them with grace and resilience.

Maintaining a positive outlook and reframing the narrative around perimenopause can be empowering. Instead of viewing it as a time of loss or decline, let’s see it as a time of transition and transformation. Embrace the wisdom and experience that comes with age and celebrate the unique journey that perimenopause offers.

By being proactive and reaching out for support, you are taking control of your emotional well-being and ensuring that you have the resources and tools to navigate this transitional phase with knowledge and ease.

Remember, you’re not alone in this—many of us are going through the same things. Perimenopause is a natural stage in a woman’s life. It’s our rite of passage. By shedding light on perimenopause and sharing experiences, we can help break the stigma and provide a sense of community for women navigating this challenging time. Let’s continue to educate ourselves and each other, showing empathy and understanding as we navigate the ups and downs of perimenopause together.

It’s important to keep the conversation going and help each other through this time with understanding, care, self-love, and self-acceptance. We may be going through some changes, but we still rock!

If you’re looking for ways to manage stress and improve your emotional well-being during perimenopause, you might find my blog post “Kick Stress Out with Calmfirmations” helpful. It provides practical tips and techniques to reduce stress levels and promote a sense of calmness.

Leave a comment below and let us know about your perimenopause journey.

Calmfirmations Promotes Positivity

CALMFIRMATIONS has several audio, video, and affirmation tracing journals that can help you say or write calming affirmations every day, or you can listen to us on YouTube and repeat calming affirmations whenever needed. They’re like a hug for your soul!

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Read it. Write it. Speak it. Wear it. BELIEVE IT!

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